How to make useful friends in college

Well, we can use common sense here: I always think in the "ME/I/MYSELF" way, and it works for me 95% of the time. Let's see how we can use this method to make useful connections, not just friends.

Suppose someone asks you for help — what would you do? Well, before you even say something, you will think about "his/her personality and behavior, how he treats others, and whether he/she deserves this help, do you go along with each other, and will he/she be of any use to you in the future?" and it looks long when you read, but it doesn't take even a second to process these thoughts and make a judgment in your head before you say anything — and it's true, we all as humans do this!

Now I want you to put yourself in this scenario as if you needed some help from someone and look at yourself — you will get the answer if they would or wouldn't help you before even asking:

• What's your personality? Do you get along with others? Do you help or are you rude to others?
• Do you get along with the person you are asking for help?
• Are you of any use to them?

If you got positive answers to these questions, you will probably get the help.

Well, here's an example: suppose you need to join a coding club that's different from your college, and you have a friend who has his people in that club, but those people don't know you — but they know your friend. So if you ask him to introduce you to them, he will first process how good you are with people and if you are of any use to him (e.g., you are so good at basketball, or you are so rich, or you have a great physique, or a lot of followers on social media, or any advantage you have). He will happily help you without hesitating.

BUT suppose you are so BAD at studies and you are shy and introverted and you don't care about your own life, you don't go to the gym or dress well or anything that's of no use to him or that shows how irresponsible you are — he will 100% make some excuses to not help you. Mark my words here!

How to make useful friends in college

You already know enough about this topic, so it shouldn't be hard to understand this.

Suppose you saw some smart/cool/rich people in your college or anywhere and you wanna join them — and as a grown adult it would feel so weird to go and directly ask them "Hey my name's X and I wanna be with you guys, is that cool?" You know what I am talking about. So how do you get into that?

1. Your image comes first

Do they know you, and if yes, what's your image in their head? (e.g., TOPPER, CRACKED CODER, SMART, COOL, RICH, HANDSOME, DUMBASS, IDIOT, WEIRDO, SHY, etc...)

If that image is positive, it wouldn't be hard for you to make them your friends. Just casually start interacting with them whenever you see them — give a fist bump, shake their hands, or just say SUP? Be intentional if you wanna make them friends. Try to get a little closer, like working/studying on the same topics together and start hanging out with them.

Trust me, it wouldn't be as hard as you think, and you wouldn't even realize when you guys became friends. IT'S THAT EASY.

2. You do the inviting

Nobody invites you for hanging out together? Again, think in the "ME/I/MYSELF" way — did you invite someone ever for anything? I bet you didn't.

Well, just so you know, a lot of people are waiting to be invited. It's so weird why people don't realize this, but it is what it is — people are waiting to be invited. So if you have a few friends, ask them for a coffee together or just to hang out, and I bet 90% they would say "SURE."

Try this out — it works every time.

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